We’re now only 38 days before the wedding, and while we’re doing pretty well on most fronts (I just settled the last of the vendors today), looming before us is now….The Ceremony. We roughed out the major parts with our officiant this weekend, but we still have to choose readings, write something to say to each other before the vows, and write our vows. No small task, and one that has me pretty nervous. I’m a decent writer, but doing justice to the subject in 60 seconds or less is darn near impossible. How do you give an “elevator pitch” for a nearly five year relationship? How do you explain that you love someone more than you ever thought possible, without having it sound like saccharine? I’m really struggling with this. I take some solace in the idea that many other couples struggle with the same thing, and they eventually write their vows, so I imagine that we will eventually succeed as well.
Nothing much happening on the creative front – I’ve decided that I really need lessons to learn the fine details of making good tapestry, and a table loom really isn’t great for weaving tapestry. So I’ve set the loom and tapestry yarns aside until after the wedding, when I’ll be able to take classes, etc. The dyeing has been on hold because my trusty digital scale, which has served me well for 20+ years, died over the weekend. (Replacement ordered, but not here yet.) And, to be honest, I haven’t really had the mental energy to do anything else. I originally thought it was a passing thing, but now I think it’s pre-wedding jitters.
Which is fine, but if I don’t have SOMETHING creative to do, I’ll lose my mind entirely. So I am casting about, thinking of craft projects to do – either something simple that I can do with very little mental energy, or something so interesting that it will engage my mental energies. I must admit I’m drawing a blank right now (see previous notes on inability to focus), but I’m sure something will come in time. I’m kind of interested in bookbinding, as I want to bind my collection of Weaver’s magazines into a set of books (so they don’t get damaged sitting around loose), and recently bought two books on the subject, but not sure I have the energy for that. I’ll have to think about it.
T minus 38 days. Wow, that’s close. I’m starting to get nervous.
Hey, Tien, we agonized over the same thing, especially for some reason the reading — there is a photo of my now-husband and me at our rehearsal dinner, surrounded by stacks of books. I like the one we finally chose just fine, I like the ceremony we developed just fine, but to tell you the truth I remember almost NOTHING about the day. So if we had stood up there and recited from Khalil Gibran it would have been just fine. What really mattered was what happened the day after the ceremony, and the day after that, and on and on. I’m not saying you should stick a pin in a book of classic poems and go with what you land on …. but every once in a while, take a deep breath and remind yourself it’s really only a few hours out of the rest of your lives.
(I wanted to read Andrew Marvell’s “To His Coy Mistress” but it was vetoed. “Vegetable love” seems like a great description of a five year long distance courtship, wouldn’t you say?)
Harriet Tidball’s little monograph on Basic Tapestry is wonderful. (Were they making digital scales +20 years ago??)
Keep it simple, trust your heart and remember that whatever you decide and no matter what happens that day, it will be a Perfect Day.
All The Very Best To You Both, Lucinda
the most wonderful thing each day is to hear him say “did i tell you how much I love you today?’ We did a Vegas wedding, in the oldest church.
And the most amazing words were- I love you and will always-, don’t make your self crazy, look at him and smile and let him know he will never be alone again as long as he lives.,and every day tell him how much you love him.